How to hold back tears and not cry - effective ways and tips

How to hold back tears when you want to cry from resentment during a conversation?

Sometimes it is very difficult to hold back tears, and there are even situations when it seems that it is simply impossible to do so. In this case, psychologists have several ways that you can use to take control of the situation.

Psychologists recommend:

Switch attention

To do this, you can use some questions that will definitely make you take your mind off crying. These are questions like “is my stove turned off?”, or “is my apartment locked?”

You can remember the multiplication table, the lyrics of your favorite song, or the password for something important to you.

You can also switch your attention in another way, by turning your gaze to some object. It is advisable that the object of your attention has many small details that should be closely examined, counted, etc.

The girl looks into the distance

Use your imagination

To do this, you can imagine the person who offended you in a bizarre image. The most important thing here is not to laugh, otherwise you can harm yourself even more in an already tense situation.

Pinch yourself or bite your lip

Physical sensations that you will definitely focus on, for example, while pinching your wrist, can also help your emotions recede.

Focus on breathing or hold it altogether

To do this, you need to slowly and deeply inhale through your nose and exhale for a long time through your mouth, concentrating on the process itself. Also, during an emergency, the human body itself is capable of getting rid of unimportant matters, so you can simply hold your breath.

Deep breathing helps relieve tension during times of stress and avoid tears

Drink water

If possible, you should drink water, concentrating on the process itself. You need to drink slowly, in small sips.

Make sudden movements

Sudden movements always help relieve tension, so you can try to stand up quickly, sit down quickly, open a window, push in a chair, etc. If it is not possible to make sudden movements, then you can simply try to suddenly change your position, straighten your shoulders, raise your head, while concentrating on your breathing.

Avoid direct views of third parties

Any, even a small glance of sympathy in your direction can cause a rapid flow of tears, so you should avoid such glances in every possible way. There is no need to look at anyone, it is better to look out the window, at a picture, etc.

Use a pen or phone

If the situation and conditions allow, then in a critical situation you can start writing something pleasant on a piece of paper. This will give you the opportunity to take your mind off a stressful situation.

You can also use, for example, a mobile phone or tablet. If tears start to come, you can simply distract yourself and look on the Internet.

Leave the premises when passions are heating up

If the situation has escalated to the limit, then, avoiding tears, you should leave the room where the unpleasant situation overtook you as quickly as possible. This decision will help you avoid tears, let go of the situation, and calm down.

After the tension has subsided, you can try to continue the conversation.

After the situation that could have caused you tears is left behind, you should do the following:

Blot your face, neck, and arms up to the elbows with cool water. You can use an ice cube by placing it on your wrist

Wash your face - avoid tears

Look in the mirror and smile, even when you don’t feel like it. Tell yourself everything is fine
Think about something pleasant, if you wish, you can read a prayer
Drink sweet tea
Talk out, tell someone close about your worrying issue who can support you

Look away

It may sound and look a little strange, but if it works, why not? Look away, turn your attention to someone else. This may actually help you hold back your tears. Of course, people around you may throw strange glances in your direction, but keep looking around until you calm down. Do whatever you can to help you stop crying.

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How to hold back tears from pain?

There are also some ways that will help you avoid tears not only from resentment, but also from pain. To do this you need:

Keep your eyes open as wide as possible, while trying not to blink
It is necessary to raise your eyebrows high and remain in this position until the pain begins to subside
You need to look up, but do not raise your head. Stay in this state until the pain begins to subside.
It is necessary to relax all the muscles of the face and open your mouth wide and wide several times and then close it

In order not to cry from pain, you can use some tips from the previous section.

About the causes of tearfulness: you can cry in different ways

System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan explains that among us there are 5% of people endowed with special sensuality and emotionality. These are the owners of the visual vector, for whom the eyes are a particularly sensitive area. It is these people who have “increased tearfulness.” But crying can be done in different ways: with beneficial or destructive effects on the psyche.

How to stop crying for any reason

By nature, all owners of the visual vector are constantly close to tears. Such people have a huge emotional range; they can subtly feel the states of other people.

Due to such sensuality, both a tragic love story and empathy for a sick person can actually provoke tears in them. Sometimes it doesn’t even matter whether this story is real or unfolds on the stage - the audience still reacts emotionally and sensually.

Stopping crying completely for the viewer is the same as stopping breathing. His receptive area (eyes) actually needs this periodic stimulation. The most important thing in this matter is the reason for which the tears arise.

When is it good to cry?

There is nothing wrong with crying during a sensual song or a soulful performance. But by nature, the carrier of the visual vector is given a special emotional sensitivity in order to realize it in empathy and compassion for other people. To those who have suffered real misfortune, who have experienced real grief.

We can see developed and realized owners of the visual vector among volunteers, working with seriously ill or disabled people. They help orphanages or are busy delivering humanitarian supplies to countries where there is war. They are always exactly where their compassion and active assistance to weaker sections of the population are most in demand.

The viewer may well cry out of empathy for his neighbor. But these tears are beneficial, and it is not difficult for a person to calm down in such a situation - he will quickly stop crying, switching to real help. Unfortunately, in conditions where the properties of the visual vector are not sufficiently realized, the situation is different.

When tears are destructive

With a lack of realization, the entire enormous emotional range of the viewer is closed in on himself, in his own experiences. This gives rise to constant hysterics and emotional swings, causing a person to break into hysterics and yell at loved ones. In this state, he sometimes cannot calm down and only winds himself up more and more.

Depending on the additional presence of other vectors, the reason may be torment over a guy or girl. A person may cry from jealousy, panic, or perhaps from resentment towards loved ones and fate. The reason in all these cases is the same - the emotional range of the viewer is too great to be directed at himself and his troubles.

How to learn to control tears and emotions?

In order to learn to hold back your tears and control your emotions, you should increase your self-esteem.

Exercising in front of a mirror will help improve self-esteem

You can increase your self-confidence and your abilities with daily training. To do this, standing in front of the mirror, you should tell yourself that nothing and no one threatens you, that you will go through all the hardships, that you are strong, smart, and confident.

Among other things, you should take care in advance about what thoughts will distract you from the situation itself in a stressful situation, when you are overwhelmed with emotions or are about to cry.

Tears help relieve tension

Whatever situations arise in everyday life, you should remember that tears are not always a sign of weakness. Sometimes tears are simply necessary to relieve tension during emotional release - this is just the body's reaction to stress.

Drink something cold

This is kind of a weird tip when it comes to how to stop crying at inappropriate times, but it really works. Your tears are stimulated by the facial nerve. Therefore, all that needs to be done is to stimulate the facial nerve with another sensation.

You need to pour yourself a glass of cold water and drink it as if you were dying of thirst. This will stimulate the endings of the facial nerve and at the same time shift your attention away from the unpleasant news that is about to make you cry.

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Learn to dominate

Yes, the first tip sounds exactly like that. Develop restraint and self-control, the ability to control emotions, and demonstrate strong will. Various auto-trainings will provide you with good support in this regard. The simplest and most accessible way to calm down and not cry is to take a deep breath several times and count to... Some up to 10, some even more. The main thing is that after such an exercise you relax somewhat, pull yourself together, and your feelings return to a more usual course and degree. This is, so to speak, advice for situations under force majeure. In general – long and hard work on yourself!